Sunday Mistake

Met this guy off eHarmony.

He made the mistake of calling me before our first date. Who does that anymore? We spoke for 30 minutes and I couldn't hear him most of the time, also I didn't think we had that much to talk about. Regardless, he still wanted to hang out with me on Thursday. I wanted to cancel on him, cuz I wanted to save him money and I wanted to save myself some time. Also, BBC was coming over.

This is what happened when I tried to cancel on him...

Him: Hey. How was the midnight call ? 12:30 PM

Him: So I guess I should ask if you even still want to hang out ? 12:30 PM

Me: No, I don't think it is going to work out. 3:16 PM

Him: Lol. Why is that 5:13 PM

Him: I am actually kind of curious how you say it won't work out before even meeting me 5:24 PM

Me: I just don't think we clicked. 5:46 PM

Him: Lol. You never even met me 5:46 PM

Me: We didn't click on the phone. 5:49 PM

Him: I think your wrong. If you had interest we should hang out 5:53 PM

Him: If your really not coming back until Friday lets grab lunch over the weekend 6:24 PM

Me: I like your persistence. 6:27 PM

Him: Because I think I know good thing when I see one and I think we would have a good time together 6:29 PM

Him: So has my persistence earned me my date back ? 8:06 PM

Me: possibly... 8:07 PM

Him: Lol. I thought the stig was always up for a challenge. 8:10 PM

Me: Are you a challenge? 8:24 PM

Him: I might be 8:25 PM

Performance Anxiety

So I guess this is a real thing.

I have been  dating guy #3 for a while and the first time we tried hooking up, I can sense his nervousness. We frolicked on his bed for a long time naked and nothing happened. His dick was shriveled and limper than a slice of cold cut. I get it, it isn't everyday that he gets to fuck a hot chick and he just got excited.

Fast forward 3 weeks, we had a sleepover at my house. He fucking did it again!!!!! I even went down on him and NOTHING. He kept apologizing to me, and I felt bad. This is when he told me that he hasn't had sex in 5 years!!!! Wow! 5 years?!!? and the last time he hooked up with a chick was a one night stand too! I think he's only had sex with 2 women his whole life. This is like unexplored territory for me. I think I was a little bit relieved cuz his dick was kinda small anyway. No fun for me.

Is it rude for me to just start forwarding articles of how to overcome performance anxiety to him? 

I ain't that awesome

·         SingleInNewYork

You are paying for dinner

9/12, 3:53pm

CheapAss

i currently have zero stock

it is my turn

but you can say that more generally when i vest

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9/12, 3:53pm

SingleInNewYork

I won't hold my breath

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9/12, 3:53pm

CheapAss

for me to vest?

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9/12, 3:54pm

SingleInNewYork

For you to pay more

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9/12, 3:54pm

CheapAss

i don't want to emasculate you or challenge your independence

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9/12, 3:55pm

SingleInNewYork

Trust me, that won't happen

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9/12, 3:57pm

CheapAss

i know, because i won't do it

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9/12, 3:57pm

CheapAss

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9/12, 3:57pm

SingleInNewYork

Won't do what?

Emasculate me? Or pay?

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9/12, 3:57pm

CheapAss

won't challenge your indpendence

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9/12, 3:58pm

SingleInNewYork

My independence will not be challenged if the guy I am dating is paying

Is it emasculating to you when I pay?

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9/12, 3:59pm

CheapAss

no, it feels like a partnership which it should since we both work

(and you are not in, say, a low-end retail job)

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9/12, 4:01pm

SingleInNewYork

Chivalry must be dead to to

You

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9/12, 4:15pm

CheapAss

i consider that a success from a gender equality perspective

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9/12, 4:16pm

SingleInNewYork

I consider that being cheap

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9/12, 4:17pm

CheapAss

i consider it entitlement and/or hiring an administrative assistant and sex worker

assuming both partners are fiscally capable

if i was on a date with a student with no income, i'd pay, no questions asked

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9/12, 4:21pm

SingleInNewYork

It's etiquette

If you want a gf you need to adopt to social standards

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9/12, 4:25pm

CheapAss

it's rude and entitled on a woman's part

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9/12, 4:25pm

SingleInNewYork

I don't think so

Are you saying that our split should be proportional to our salary?

Also how is staying the weekend in Boston saving shareholder's $$

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9/12, 4:47pm

CheapAss

that isn't, doing it once as comp for having to go there even though i don't get comp time

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9/12, 4:49pm

CheapAss

if we were splitting housing costs or things like that i would be saying that; at this stage,we both have professional jobs and we're not incurring large expenses where the balance is really an issue so i think it's easier to 50-50 it, since neither of us likely wants to get into disclosing those kinds of details.

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9/12, 5:20pm

SingleInNewYork

It takes a certain type of chick to put up with you

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9/12, 5:56pm

CheapAss

an awesome one?